BOOK REVIEW: act like a lady think like a MAN- Part 1

....have you ever thought to yourself..i can't figure out guys...don't just understand them..me too..in fact at a point i decided i was gonna move to Alaska and become a nun...lol.well, not understanding guys doesn't make you strange, its totally ok, guys and gurls are different in so many ways than obvious...their genetic make up, their thought process and how they handle situations are completly opposite, so it would make sense if we sometimes don't understand them....

Well, thanks to guys like Steve Harvey, who teach us to think like men, and still act like ladies, we have a better idea of how to understand men...and its not even as complicated as it sounds...ok, so lets get right into it...what does Steve Harvey have to say about men, love and relationships

Steve starts the book by reminding us one important fact, MEN ARE NOT SIMPLE...well i mean now that only makes sense...men are driven by three things, who they are, what they do and how much they make....so until they acheieve their goals they can't focus on you...how many of you ever heard a guy say he loves a chic, and they have probably been dating for 5-10 years, but the guy wouldn't just propose..and he's excuse is he has to get stuff togehter....alright, if you know that person or you are that person, you understand the last point...don't get me wrong, im not saying guys would only love you when they have acheived billionaire status...but i am saying guys can't multitask like us women, so their focus is on the prize...if its not you then, GURL forget it..one thing you can do is help him focus on his dream(S), as Steve Harvey says, get him focused, see the vision and then implement the plan..

I started talking to this guy a while back, and i thought we had it going on, you know he was really into me...but he never tried to give me the title...but he liked me..hmmm..i am thinking how do you like a chic but you don't want her as your girlfriend or anything more...that's when i got it..a guy can like you but he might not be ready for a relationship..or he might really like you and be attracted to you, but might not see u as a potential girlfriend...its very possible...Steve Harvey says if a guy really likes you and wants to be with you he will do three things..and i want this to stick ok ladies...he would:

1. Profess- when you go out, how does your 'man' introduce you to his friends or people..does he say, 'this is (insert name here), my friend'...O__o..ummm if he's doing that then maybe you are just a friend and if your already going a bit further than 'friends' then maybe your just a friend with benefits...because if a guy likes you, hes gonna introduce you more like..this is (insert name here), my girlfriend; my woman; my gurl....you know plain and simple..that's what professing is all about, he would be more than happy to let the world know you and him have something going on and its not just a friendship

2. Provide-it is in the genetic make up of a man to feel like he has to take care of what he loves or likes...like Steve Harvey says, 'if a guy likes you he would bring home the bacon'...well that's for the married divas..im gonna make this relatable to the unmarried ladies out there...let's take for example...a guy takes you out to see a movie, or dinner...if when the bill comes he looks at it and pushes it towards you, asks for you to split it..or both...then you have to really consider whats up..cus not only does a guy that likes you want to show off or show hes Mr Capable, but he wants to also prove to you that he's got you...now your saying, what if he doesn't have money...gurll..ima have you know that if he didn't have money and wanted to take you out, he would double his shift to get that extra money, or take you out when he does have the money...

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3. Protect- if a man loves you, he is willing to take down anybody who says, does or attempts to offend you...i have seen a couple chics getting dissed by their boyfriends boys, and their boyfriend sits there and keeps quiet...well if that's you reconsider...because no guy that loves you would sit through that and say absolutely nothing...have you seen footage of a lion in a forest before, it protects his family (which includes its woman..lol..and cubs)..anything that tries to harm them pretty much goes down...

Moving on....

i will give you a few quck points in conclusion....

when you meet or go out with a guy for the first time, things you should and should not do:

1: don't talk to much

2: don't be to clingy

3: don't come across as to aggressive: don't let your anxiousness to get to know him and take your friendship further come across as DESPERATION

4: even if you eventually want to date him, don't let him know immediately, don't put yourself out there, that might scare him away..

5: never tell a man what you like..hmm your probably thinking what is she saying...but think with me ladies...you tell a guy what you like when he asks you and trust me you will get it...at least for the few weeks hes trying to get you and guess what after that he's done...especially if you want him to act in a certain way...if he asks you..tell him in a sleek way what you don't like...example: i like when guys keep to their words, cus of course you dont like when a guy is dishonest or has no integrity...stay with me ladies...Telling him what you like gives him a road map to your heart..you say you love lilies, gurl till the day he gets you, you gonna be getting a lily a day

So Fashionistas, we all love accessories and sometimes we want the ones that come in the form of a man...yeah...u just have to remember that men and women are different...men are like waffles (..for example...they compartmentalize everything), women are let me see a bit more like sphagetti (for example we multitask)...hope you enjoyed Relationships and Men 101 with Steve Harvey and B-Diva..stay tuned for part 2...love ya'll

B-Diva